Preamble

Most strangers don’t hear the first words you say to them. They’re in shock and awe that you would be talking to them in the first place. You can string together the most articulate, poetic words but all they will hear is, “wawawa.” They’re too busy processing your vibe, checking your hands for rocks and your face for aggression, and taking in your tone of voice. So don’t waste your breath saying anything important. Get their full attention and build anticipation first

Gym Example

“Sorry to bother you while you’re working out,” I say. “But I’m just wondering something about you.”

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“That looks like an interesting exercise to me. I’m curious what sport you’re training for.”

“Oh, no sport really. I do a little snowboarding. I’m just keeping in shape.”

“Oh, I see. I ski. I wish I was a snowboarder. Your gear is much more hip. I’m jealous.”

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“My training is extensive,” I say. “Lot’s of taking it easy, eating french fries.” I look around. “I’d actually get in trouble if they found me here.”

“Yeah, now you’re thinking. I like that. What’s your name?”